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Frisky Friday - Delicate Fun

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Often, the most gentle of touches can be the most titillating. Of course, it depends on what one likes.

Sensations can be heightened in a few ways, so delicate touches are more engaging. Ice, hot wax, and spanking are some of the ways people make this happen.

It turns out that pain and pleasure are not completely different in the brain. That's old news to some and unknown to others. They overlap. For some, that overlap may be greater.

Now some of you might be conflicted about this whole idea. It's bad to hurt others. Well, this is a grey area.

If they want to be spanked, there's a big difference between beating them and doing it in an enjoyable way. Some of it is figuring out what they like and where pain stops being fun for them.

As a general guideline, when spanking, smack their bottom until it stings a bit. Then run that feather you might have found in that little sex kit you bought that time or your fingers gently over the area. For many, the butt cheeks are an erogenous zone, so your partner may just find themselves incredibly turned on, even yearning for more. Or they might not enjoy it at all.

Ask them.

Everyone is different and someone might like a little kink like spanking while others are into hardcore stuff and others want no pain at all.

Oh, and if it's all new to you, don't be afraid to say so. Maybe you're just interested in dipping your toe in. Maybe it's all new to your partner too. Read about it. Check for some videos. You can even go to Sexapalooza when it's in town. I haven't made it to one of those yet, but who knows what the future may hold.

Whatever you decide to get into, have fun. That's what it's all about. If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong.

Well, this isn't where I thought I'd go with today's post, but here we are...

Have a terrific weekend ;)

R~

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